We are either replaying our story or rewriting our story. Your life is dynamic. Your life is full of change, change we cannot always foresee. For the most fulfilling life, we need to take control of our lives. Our lives may not already be set to lead us to a certain destiny. And if we are destined, then we need to take an active part in what our destiny has for us.
My granddaughter reminds me of what our story looks like when we are young. Really not much written, certainly not written in stone yet. Everyday is a new day, a new beginning to learn as much as she possibly can in one day. And then another day comes and she adds more to her story. But yet her story can change easily and without regret. And she lives her days with all of her being.
As we get older, we add to our story. And without being conscious of it, those stories/experiences find a happy home in our lives. We create the messages we received as things that make us feel successful, or things that make us feel inadequate. And because we are efficient at connections and story telling, we live by those feelings. Have you ever seen someone and immediately had them figured out?
I wholeheartedly believe in the freedom to have choices. If someone wants to smoke marijuana, so be it as long as they can base their choices on fact, same as abortion or any other choice that affect our lives. So with all the choices we have to consider, it can lead to indecision. When you see all those ads for things you “need”, there are decisions you make. Either yes, I need it and I will buy it or not. It goes on to I should workout today, but let me decide here….I am tired, no not going to today. With all those decisions, it can lead to stagnation.
So here’s the plan. Some strategies that has helped me in the past:
- Have a plan! If you don’t know where you want to be, then you can’t plan how to get there. I used to think that New Year Resolutions were a bunch of crap, however when I did sit down to write on up, it manifested. The plan needs to be what your heart is telling you, concrete and doable, and meaningful.
- When you have a plan, then you need to implement it. For example, I want to eat healthy, feel healthy. Specifically, less meat products and more plant based. I start by implementing more plant based meals, trying out recipes, finding what works for me. Slowly I add another plant based meal a week, then another. I experiment with thousands of plant based meals. In a years time, plant based meals become the norm. What I am pointing out is you can make your “norm” whatever you want it to be (with persistence). And when you are successful with one goal, you have the confidence with your other goals.
- With all the decisions we make, we need to eliminate some of those. What I suggest is if working out is the goal. Then don’t even consider the possibility of not working out. I planned to work out 3 days a week, then by hell or high water, I WILL work out those 3 days. Your word to yourself is sacred.
- Small changes create big changes. You will not lose 100 pounds in a month, unrealistic. Make your goals doable, for you. Success breeds success, and over time the steps you take will deliver you to another goal you want to achieve. Our human nature is to expand and we will never rest on our laurels. Celebrate them, YES, but not stagnate.
Write your Story, rewrite, edit, change, create our story, be an active participant in your unique, beautiful life!